Have you ever heard of Angel Delight?

It’s a whipped dessert.

The ‘S’ and ‘M’ did not stand for ‘Sadomasochism’ or even ‘Sadism’ and ‘Masochism’ but ‘Subordination’ and ‘<something>’ — ‘Bondage, Domination, Subordination and <something>’, see.

Are we getting into semantic again? Look, subordination, or “Slave/Master” or whatever else people like to claim those letters mean, actually are sub-categories of “domination”. Those last two are about pleasure from causing pain in others, or pleasure from receiving pain from others. Both Bondage and Domination can exist with or without pain. But pain is, and always will be, a factor in BDSM. Just because some practitioners don’t like the pain aspect does not mean they can change the meaning. Seems you get your pick of “discipline” or “domination” But I would argue discipline is a form of domination, yet you can dominate without disciplining your partner.

Interestingly enough, it is the discipline part you say you like. “You keep your hands above your head because I said so … if you know what’s good for you” (italics are mine) is in fact discipline play. Expecting self restraint is discipline play.

The Darwin Awards are a source of morbid fascination, aren’t they?

Yes, they are.

I explained that my fantasy was to walk in in my leather duster, whip out two sawn-off shotguns and blow everyone away … paint the floor with rivulets of red … conduct a symphony of the groans of the dying

Dude, you should totally play The Evil Within 2. The first antagonist is a photographer using some sort of time loop camera to make art of his kills. Gruesome and beautiful.

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