Heath, I hope I am way off. Like way, way off.
But a little red flag just started waving at the back of my mind.
I have to ask. Is this (Riker)you? But not for the pickup, all trough the relationship:
Do you ever take? Do you ever let her do the adoring?
I’ve known some guys who were so sure they were doing all the right things. Who prided themselves on being able to please a woman. But so much, they never thought about pleasing themselves. Oh sure, for a while that’s great. But you know what? A lover who only gives is just as boring and unsatisfying as a lover who only takes. And I’m not talking about the dominant sense of taking. Although, that is nice. This isn’t about who is on top, exactly. But this is about always putting her pleasure before yours. It’s not a good thing. Sometimes, she wants to fuck you. It’s just that simple. You know how good it feels to make your partner feel really good and not even worry about yourself? Yeah? Don’t deny her that. About half the time, let her come out feeling like she did you the favor.
That’s not being an asshole. That’s being equal.