Hi Jhagi, nice to meet you. Can I just jump in here? Because I noticed something.

For context, I’m Dutch, currently living in Aruba, Caribbean, former Dutch colony now a country within the Kingdom of the Netherlands. So this is a completely outside view.

And for the sake of my point, I wish to remove race form this observation and tell you a story about a friend, a white Russian immigrant to the US.

Like you she’s also saying she gets much more opportunities in the US than she ever would have in her home country. And she works hard to make something of herself.

But meanwhile she is forced to live with her boyfriend’s mother, who drives her crazy, because 2 incomes don’t afford them a house, bought or rented, of their own.

Because of her background, she doesn’t want to hear about anything being unfair in the US. But at the same time, she is living in circumstances that are clearly unfair. Two people who put in their hard work should be able to have their own place, build their own live and if they wish, start their own family. It’s certainly not a lack of effort. This lady is was working 2 jobs and going to school. Her boyfriend works, yet they are not getting married and not starting their own lives, because society makes it impossible for them to do so.

I’m sure you can see that this is not a fair place to be? That changes should still be made, regardless of how much better it is than other places? That the rewards in no way match the work they put in?

But because of this background, she’s refusing to see how there’s still a problem. Simply being better than other things doesn’t mean there’s no room for improvement.

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